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I’m going to stay as far away as I can from the issues of gender roles in relationships. It’s been covered quite well here and at Ann’s blog. But I do intend to convey my sympathies toward those who desire their significant others to peel their prawns. I lack the required dexterity to peel prawns with utensils, and depending on the company I’m too prissy and needlessly self-conscious to commence with the deed using my hands. When unsure, I usually just crunch! crunch! crunch! like Ann mentioned (but that can invite weird looks from onlookers, too, depending on where you are).

When I was last at Yang’s parent’s home in Lentor for dinner, I had just arrived in Singapore that morning and hadn’t slept a wink in just shy of 40 hours. But once those large, juicy prawns were situated upon the table in front of me, I began to perk up. They were so enticing, but something occurred to me: How am I supposed to eat them? I didn’t want to commit a potential faux pas, so I waited until someone else dug in to see how they approached those tasty-tailed devils.

This required much discipline. A steely resolve washed over me. I watched as family members served themselves that oh-so-delicious rendang, tended to their soup bowls, and poked at the three-layer pork.

To my dismay, the prawns remained ignored. When Chek-Tchung, sitting to my right, reached across the table, my heart skipped a beat—but no, he chose instead to secure a hardy portion of Hainanese chicken. A more severe act of unintended cruelty I have never known. :)

Then finally Jasmine mercifully snatched up a prawn. I was all eyes.

But to my astonished horror, she began dismantling the little bastard with her fork and spoon. This, my friends, just would not do. In my incapable hands we’d have more prawns on Mrs. Foo’s floor than on the table. I wouldn’t have blamed anyone if they’d sent me to Pedra Branca to dodge bird droppings for the duration of my stay.

But, thankfully, Jasmine and others soon after chose to forego the utensils, merrily peeling away those translucent layers with their fingers and piling the remains into a tidy pile to be discarded later. Now this I could do and do well!

I’m of course playing up this little anxiety of mine, but it serves to remind me that in a casual situation having someone handy who can systematically peel those plump prawns is some kind of a blessing. And as for the dinner at Mr. and Mrs. Foo’s, it remains the culinary highlight of my stay in Southeast Asia—great company and great food!

I’m beginning to think I’m the harbinger of catastrophe. Here in Singapore, accidents of all measure occur in my vicinity while I’m off in one direction or another.

During my November, 2006 stay in Singapore I witnessed several traffic accidents, the most thrilling of which occurred in Chinatown at the corner of Mosque and Hill St. An avid motorcyclist began turning into Mosque St at a high speed; however, Mosque St happens to be a one-way road. The biker, seeing a silver Mercedes roll toward his direction into a lazy halt at the junction, too realized this. Quickly and as laid back as can be, the biker corrected his error and began to continue down Hill St. It turns out he overcorrected: the bike and its driver slid on their sides across the width of Mosque St’s outlet, and into a trash can (Singapore: Litter Free!). Onlookers screamed, motorists honked their horns, I cheered in approval—a better show I had not yet seen. But with much luck the biker and his bike recovered to their former upright positions and went off on their merry way, all in the span of perhaps 15 seconds.

The funniest traffic-related mishap occurred just outside Labrador Park. At the easternmost bus stop exists, I think, a bus-only lane. Further down the course is limited space for vehicles to park, but the mouth of the lane is restricted. This is because the bus requires a lot of room at its disposal to turn around. Now of course this doesn’t stop Singaporeans from driving through and even parking their vehicles along the entire length of the lane, and one such sod had the misfortune of coming in behind the bus as the bus driver attempted to turn around. It turns out that this eager parker had just occupied the very last bit of real estate required by the bus driver to perform his turnaround—and the bus driver let him know it. I do not speak Hokkien, but even so I felt like I learned every Hokkien curse word in the book. The driver’s verbal onslaught would’ve made a sailor blush. The subject of the tirade stood there like a red-headed stepchild, mouth agape. His hand was in the cookie jar, and the owner of that cookie jar was perhaps the foulest-mouthed scallywag to ever drive a bus. Finally, the cowed motorist snapped into action. But so quickly did he do so that, upon opening his car door in a mad rush, he slammed it directly into the black Mazda next to him, initiating an obnoxious car alarm and caving in a more than noticeable portion of his neighbor’s passenger door. (I wish I could describe the characteristic of the bus driver’s laugh in response, but words fail me. Know this: it haunts me still.)

A scarier incident happened only recently at the Dhoby Ghaut interchange. I approached the final descending escalator leading to the Northeast line. No more than two meters ahead of me was an elderly lady holding four plastic bags and seeming to have a rather tough time of it. As she granted her feet purchase upon the flat escalator procession, she staggered upright. It was a frightening sight. I honestly thought she’d experienced a brief, minor seizure, but she caught herself, gripping the rubber railing with her right hand. However, a second later—totally out of the blue—she tumbled backwards as the escalator formed into descending steps. She banged herself up pretty good, dropping her bags—two oranges tumbled to the very bottom of the escalator steps—and managing to scare the ever-loving shit out of me. I helped her up and grabbed her bags, but she was too dazed to notice. And then, upon reaching the bottom, she snapped right out of her funk, thanked me, retrieved her bags—though not grabbing the two battered oranges—and hopped aboard the Punggol-way MRT car. (And by the way, though there were people nearer by than I, not a soul did a thing but stare on in a kind of pacified astonishment. Not cool.)

Even more recently, and by far the most frightening yet, was the all-too-close opportunity to witness my first traffic fatality. A bicyclist proceeded south along Sengkang Ctrl where Compassvale Bow meets. He gave little credence to the no-walking light just as a motorist driving a pale-blue Kia hatchback and poised to make a right turn into Compassvale Bow nearly gave no credence to the jay-walker—or jay-rider, as is the case. My perspective from Compassvale Bow did not provide me an accurate assessment of just how near the collision these two fellows were, but take my word for it—it was close. The bicyclist had to dodge the incoming car by veering his bicycle sharply to the left. This last, split-second maneuver probably saved his life, as the motorist had only then applied his brakes. The sharp turn to the left did however ensure the bicyclist rammed straight into the 6-inch high median, which stopped his bike right in its tracks. The bicyclist was not so lucky, as the abrupt stop sent him flying, feet-over-head, over his handlebars and into Compassvale Bow’s opposite lane. Amazingly, the bicyclist immediately returned to his feet, raising an apologetic hand in the air toward the driver who, at this point, could do little but inhale short bursts of charged air into his lungs and seemingly not lift his hand from his horn.

All of these incidents fortunately involved no serious injuries, as far as I know. Nevertheless, it’s getting to the point where I’m afraid to even walk by The Quartz condominium project, lest I see some dazed worker plummet from the 15th floor to his death as I’m taking a leisurely stroll to Buangkok MRT station. I could count the number of accidents I’ve witnessed back home in all my life on one hand, but I come to Singapore and it’s as if I’m a magnet for disaster. If you see some ang moh wandering around your neighborhood, you’d best steer clear—but be sure to look in all directions before doing so, or it might be your last decision.

Along the hike up to the Treetop Walk near Bukit Timah, I smelled a distinct fragrance in the air. “What is that smell?” I asked. I just couldn’t place it, but it was familiar. Could it be lavender? No. Or it could be some sweet, exotic leaf or spice. Not likely, but damned if it wasn’t something fairly powerful. I bet it’s something really nice and unusual.

Then, Ling says, “It is insect repellent.”

“Oh.”

I sure could have used some of that during my brief walk through Punggol Park last night, but I doubt it would have helped. I strolled briskly around the lake, taking in the serene cityscape reflections shimmering whimsically upon its still surface. I wasn’t the only one: the place was packed with joggers, bicyclists, family picnickers, the occasional fisherman, and this perspiring ang moh yearning for a place to sit.

Through all this human traffic only one amiable park bench presented itself to me, and it beheld perhaps the most promising, uncluttered view of the park lake of all the benches. I thought to myself why this particular bench remained unoccupied. Indeed, several passersby seemed interested in a seating arrangement yet didn’t look twice at this vacant bench.

I thought nothing more of it, leaning back in relaxation as the twilight surroundings captivated me completely. That is, until about two minutes later when I felt the first of a dozen stings all across my body. An elderly fellow standing no more than four meters from me looked on as my body convulsed in a spastic, panicked dance.

“Ants,” he said, chuckling as he playfully slapped his wrist.

“Yes,” I replied, reciprocating his gesture with a few well aimed slaps upon my own arms, legs, neck, and back. “Ants.”

Use a metered cab—make sure it is metered!

This is obviously good advice. And like most good advice I’ve received throughout my life, I chose to ignore it. At the Bangkok airport, taxi stand in sight, I ducked through the revolving doors and toward the pavement. Within two seconds I felt like the prettiest girl at the prom. But these people didn’t want to dance, nor did they want to admire my bright, shining smile . . .

“500-baht!” shouted one man, placing his outstretched palm so close to my face that I read his future. It was thus: You will not be receiving my 500-baht in this lifetime.

A less anxious man next to him quoted the same figure, adding, “Where you wanna’ go?”

I pulled out my printed sheet with the picture of my destination. “Asia Hotel, please.”

“What? No way!” He and the anxious man laughed, their entire bodies jiggling with glee. It was the kind of laugh that slaps you right in your face. “That too far. I lose money for sure. Now for 800-baht, I take you to hotel.”

I tried to act like I’d done this before. “800-baht is too much.” I looked on as the Singaporeans who had flown with me jetted off in metred taxis. Meanwhile the two men rattled off a number of figures, each an attempt to justify their price. I pretended not to listen. After flipping on my sunglasses I began to proceed on.

They followed, but a third man equipped with a clipboard stepped up. “700-baht and I take you to your hotel. Have nice taxi just for you.”

“Huh?”

The man drew a “7″ with his finger. “700-baht.”

“No thanks.”

“Your hotel is so far away, much further than other places, plus there is huge airport charge. 600-baht is low as can go.”

“Funny, because I hear metered taxis go lower. Oh,” I said, looking forward, “there’s one now.”

“Wait, sir. They very slow. My taxis treat you right.”

“Treat me right for 500-baht.”

The man looked exasperated. “Come this way please; 500-baht.”

Pleased with my first haggle, though aware that clearly I was being played whether I liked to think so or not, I agreed. I followed the man and his scribble-addled clipboard across the departures traffic where upon he passed an invisible baton to an older man who I was then to follow. Already this was less fun than I imagined it. Into the trunk of the man’s Volvo did my suitcase go, with me following likewise into the rear passenger seat.

One wonderful feature of this car was the pristine, untarnished seat buckles. This made perfect sense when I noticed there were no seat belts to accompany them. It turned out not to be an issue. The man drove slower than paint dries whereas I had always heard the reverse was true of Bangkok cabbies. But he was an amiable chap. He mentioned that before long a train would be built connecting the airport to the city proper. “When comes, I no good anymore,” he said, chuckling at the prospect. “I look for another job already!”

I finally arrived at my hotel, a little later than I presumed but no worse the wear. And I had conducted my first bit of haggling, regardless of being royally screwed. At least it was consensual. But a larger problem loomed: the word was out that I could be easily had. Every hoodlum, trickster, and money-grubber in Bangkok was on notice. During my first jaunt out from the hotel I was confronted by a heavily tattooed man in his 50s, cigarette dangling from his mouth, who claimed to be raising money for the Boy Scouts of Thailand; a young woman who praised my watch and then claimed she had access to expensive jewelry for very cheap (“Buy now cheap and soon resale value go higher!”); and a dapper-looking fellow wearing an Alfred Dunhill leather café racer jacket who didn’t really need my money but, hey, if the stupid Caucasian was just giving it away, why not give it a try?

I could take no more: I needed a disguise:

This would have to do.

Not! This outfit would only attract more attention—and the kind I definitely didn’t need. But this goes to show what lengths I’m willing to go to just for a cheap laugh . . . or a cheap cry—you decide.

Speaking of which, I came across several transvestites during my stay. This isn’t an entirely uncommon thing to see in the United States, even in the more conservative Midwest region in which I live. One difference, however, is that the transvestites in Bangkok give the women a run for their money. Thai people are generally quite attractive but, darling, their transvestites are simply duh-vine.

But though Thai-trannies are the more attractive and hygiene-conscious, I’m positive Ameri-trans could whip the mother-lovin’ crud out of them in a fair fight. I say that because in a fight between real women, I always bet on the one with hairy legs.

Yet never did I run into a prostitute. Or, rather, never did a prostitute make herself known to me by way of a proposition. I’ll admit disappointment. I had tons of witty verbal comebacks planned for just an occasion but alas they never had the opportunity to be sprung forth. I guess I’ll have to save the witticisms for when the next time a stray dog attempts to hump my leg.

However, the bright and amiable schoolchildren of Bangkok definitely knew how to rock:

The day before my departure for Bangkok went by more quickly than I anticipated. Yang and Ling each had busy days, and I once again whiled away the morning at the The Rivervale awaiting word on the status of my misdirected luggage.

Sunday at the airport’s Lost and Found offices, the representative told me my baggage would arrive from JFK to Changi early Monday morning and to expect a call to set a time for delivery. Monday when I called their baggage-trace hotline the person on the phone told me with confidence that my luggage would arrive Tuesday morning. When on Tuesday my baggage did not arrive and the service respondent assured me Wednesday would be the day of delivery, I took a trip to Singapore Air’s offices on Orchard Road to speak in-person. (This was a great excuse to take in the sights, do some window-shopping and grab something to eat.) I was quickly put at ease by the service representative who, during his phone conversation with the trace hotline, practically cracked me up as his needled whoever it was on the other line. “If you do not receive your luggage tomorrow, sir, call and demand compensation. Here is my name and my card.” Fair enough!

***

On my way home I stopped at Guardian to grab some hair conditioner. Even in the U.S. my senses fail me when browsing through the health & care aisles. A misstep is bound to occur, and before I know it I’m in the feminine hygiene section before reaching my intended destination. In Singapore, however, I can feel the weight of clerk’s and attendant’s eyes as I wander aimlessly through one aisle to the next. So unlike in the U.S., here I’m content to ask for help.

I approached a man in his twenties busy with stocking what appeared to be bottles of shampoo. The hair conditioner could not be far off I reckoned.

“Excuse me, where is the men’s hair conditioner?” I asked.

“Ah, no idea,” he said. “Cannot English, lah.”

I smiled. “It’s okay, I’m sure I’ll find it.”

I turned to inspect the products to my left, but the conversation didn’t stop there. “Could be there,” he said, pointing to the upper shelves on our left. “Or even be maybe down there.” He pointed down toward the bottom shelves on which sat bottles plastered with images of smiling Asian women, their hair soft and glossy. His English was better than he thought.

“Okay.” I kneeled down to inspect his suggestion.

“But cannot English. So sorry.”

“Sure, no problem.”

“I speak Chinese only.”

I nodded politely as I scanned through the selection before me.

“Is just a matter of practice,” he said, placing the last of the stock from his basket on the shelf in front of him. “I must learn to apply myself.”

I felt like saying “Han na!” Clearly his English was better than that spoken by some of my friends in the States! After reciting a Shakespeare sonnet in perfect iambic pentameter, he broke away to the back office. Meanwhile, I settled on searching through the feminine hair care products looking for something neutral in scent. A lady from the counter approached me.

“You need help, sir?” From her tone she sounded like no problem was too large to conquer.

“Yes, I’m looking for hair conditioner. I can’t find anything that doesn’t smell like fruit.”

“Oh,” she said, kneeling down to join me, “you want to smell like fruit?”

“No,” I said, shaking my head, “not like fruit. These all smell like strawberry, papaya, or apples.”

“Okay. You want natural?”

That was the word I was looking for. “Definitely.”

“For dyed or treated hair?”

“No.”

“For damaged or thinning hair?”

This gave me pause. “No,” I said, reluctantly.

“Then this, perhaps?” She grabbed a slim, plain-looking bottle from the shelf and opened it part way. “Smell, please.”

“That is so natural,” I said. “I’ll take it.”

It turns out the product brand is Asience, its motto: For Progressive Asian Beauties. Now I might be progressive, but I am not Asian, much less a beauty. But this goes to show how even buying hair conditioner in Singapore for an ang moh can be an amiable little adventure.

***

Only on Wednesday, a full 72-plus hours after my arrival to Singapore, did I receive my luggage. That meant the small gifts I bought Yang and Ling had arrived, too. Now these were very, very small items, mere tokens of appreciation, some of which included fridge magnets. Yes, you read correctly. Yang mentioned before I left for Singapore that he and Ling were in the process of decorating their refrigerator, so I donated six thematically dissimilar magnets to their cause.

However, I couldn’t just come bearing fridge magnets. So I also bought a heavy Mario Batal Italian cookbook and Blade Runner Collector’s Edition on BluRay. I’d need more, though. While killing time in Compass Point during the morning of my arrival, Yang commented on how much Ling liked the macha macha cake at Bread Talk. (He in fact bought her the exact same cake for her birthday.) I had to admit, it sure looked good. This would be the perfect show of appreciation.

But I had little time. Yang and Ling were set to arrive home quite soon, and with my departure to Bangkok looming near, this would be my last opportunity. So I ran to the Buangkok MRT terminal, boarded the train, minded the gap, alighted in Sengkang, and rushed through the brief link to the mall. Happy, happy. I had plenty of time, though I’d need be delicate when transporting the cake back to The Rivervale. The human traffic was particularly high, so I took no chances—I’d walk from Compass Point mall back home.

Only upon arriving home and placing the cake in the refrigerator did I remember what I’d forgotten: gift wrapping and a Thank You card. I sprinted back to Buangkok MRT, boarded, forgot about that stupid gap, alighted once more in Sengkang, and stood in line at the basement-level grocery store with an armful of gift wrap.

But when I got back home I had no time to apply care and consideration toward the wrapping of the gifts. If I was a skilled gift wrapper like Ann, perhaps I could’ve managed, but I’m a complete novice. And beyond that, I was sweating like Oprah in front of a buffet stand. So into the gift bags did the presents go, with the gift wrap crinkled and stuffed haphazardly behind them, and loose ribbon dangling festively from the opening.

All in all, it felt great giving gifts. I should do it more often. In fact, to haul all the stuff I bought in Bangkok back home I’ll have to buy another luggage bag.

But no macha macha cake—too messy.

. . . AKA: The Mosquito Coast. Or so I’d been led to believe. So ferocious are the mosquitoes of Pulau Ubin, so insatiable is their thirst for human blood, that local custom demands that an ang moh devour a fried carrot cake before the clock strikes eight in the morn, thus ensuring the bumboat captains and all their passengers safe passage to their respective destinations. It turns out I was the man for the job. So after ducking into the seaside food court and doing my part to prevent unnecessary calamity (and having fully digested the delicious carrot cake and accompanying sides) the three of us hopped aboard an able captain’s bumboat and chugged across the watery gap to the island of abandoned rock quarries, Pulau Ubin.

The trip shore to shore takes but five to seven minutes tops, but the mosquitoes were particularly feisty. Reports poured in through the newswire warning of a frenzied mosquito swarm capsizing seafaring boats. We were sitting ducks. Yang’s shoulders were but temporary placeholders for his chin, his head swiveling rapidly side to side. Panic was in the air.

“These bastards mean business,” I said, my voice breaking. Yang didn’t respond; he was in full-on sentry mode.

With great fortune we and nine accompanying lucky souls arrived at Pulau Ubin. Other bumboats and crew, we were informed, were not so lucky. But in the spirit of adventure we sought to make good on their sacrifice, to explore where those ill-fated could not. But first, Yang and Ling sprayed and liberally rubbed each other down with insect repellant. Having indulged in the fried carrot cake only a half-hour prior, I declined such measures, believing fully in the prophecy.

Within minutes we found ourselves riding merrily atop our rented bicycles, darting with careful consideration and much precision through the morning traffic consisting of fellow bikers, near-sighted truck drivers, and oblivious tourists traipsing by without a care in the world. Yang, already on edge from the mosquito scare, began exhibiting signs of road rage.

“Careful,” I said, trailing behind as we ducked through the horde, “it’s been practically forever since I’ve ridden a bike.”

“Oh *&%@!,” he shouted back, “once you learn you never forget!”

Judging by his reply, it was too late to reason with him—he’d become unhinged, though not without his logic faculties. Yang alternated between colorful swearing and brief, corrective lectures as he bulldozed his way through the ignorant masses. Moments later the crowd parted in half to make way for the irate bicyclist and his cavalcade. As we passed by the cowed and quivering onlookers, I was only too proud to be among his party.

From that point onward it was nothing but smooth riding—if not for those blasted hills. Worse yet, Yang and I were quickly running low on soul coal though Ling showed no signs of slowing. “Where does she get that kind of energy?” asked Yang, squinting ahead as his bride breezed over the horizon.

“She’s trying to outrun the smell of that insect repellant,” I said between desperate gasps for air. “Hurry, or we’re going to lose her!”

With loving mercy Ling accepted our pleas and allowed us the occasional breather disguised as photo-op. Before long we barely attempted to cover up our lack of stamina.

“Look,” I’d say, “a rock I haven’t seen yet.”

“Oh,” joined Yang, parking his bike, “that’s no ordinary rock.”

“Oh?”

“It is very rare indeed. I’ve only read about ones like this in books.”

“Should we get a picture, you know, to document our find?”

“Definitely.”

Snap. Snap. Snap.

Meanwhile the ever patient Ling rode in circles up and through the hillside, popping wheelies and soaring over potholes.

And speaking of potholes, as expected, there were plenty. A short while into our trek our bums were quite tender, and the jostling from the bumpy off-roads was nothing compared to meeting an unexpected crater in the paved roads. With every nerve-wracking, brain-numbing

During one particular stretch of road, something strange occurred to me. Sensing the unusual, I quickly turned around to head in the opposite direction. “What are you doing?” Ling asked as Yang took the opportunity to gasp for air.

“I’m heading back,” I shouted. “I think I missed a pothole on our way down this hill.” Sure enough I had, but this was easily remedied.

Wrack!

Perfection attained, it was time for a break.

We committed ourselves, feet to the ground, to a stroll along the beach-sprawling, wetland-dissecting boardwalk where we took in lots of sun and the infrequent wildlife sighting. Eventually we arrived at an observation tower, the top of which promised an imposing view upon the island. To reach such lofty heights, however, one must proceed to the giddy little top of said tower by way of the old reliable staircase.

“Where’s the lift?” asked Yang, his voice a study in mock incredulity.

Ling could only sigh. “Dear!”

But to the top we ventured, thinning oxygen and quaking legs be damned. The view was quite good, though nothing spectacular. There’s something about spying down onto the very tops of trees that feels wrong, like peering directly down at a balding man’s head. One should, above all else, retain dignity and duly allow others do the same. Still, we were in no hurry to descend those mother-loving stairs. It was about then that I spotted the cautionary sign which informed us that the maximum load was twenty people. We were a good ten to fifteen over the limit already, with more gaining every minute.

“Great” Yang said, “maybe I won’t have to use the stairs after all.”

Soon after we collected our bikes and decided to call it a day. We careened over the hills and through the ever increasing crowds, returned the bikes, boarded and survived the return bumboat back to the mainland, and, upon returning to the air-conditioned comforts of home, breathed a sigh of relief. Not one of us had experienced a single mosquito bite, much less succumbed to malaria, and we persevered where others, sadly, had failed.

If there’s one thing I learned from my day in Pulau Ubin, it is this: for the repelling of mosquitoes, choose fried carrot cake over insect spray—not only does it taste good, but it smells better, too!

Well played, Singapore. Not only at the end of each night did you relentlessly stuff me until I waddled back to The Rivervale like a cross-eyed duck, but your strategy of playfully misplacing my luggage for over 72 hours was a nice touch, the disarming blow that made your initial victory possible. I bow to your tactics and intend to come back from Bangkok poised for sweet revenge. But know this: I still weigh .4 kg less than I did when I arrived. You have much work to do to win the war of the bulge, as I’m prepared at a moment’s notice to skip the MRT and opt instead to run to and fro to destinations, unsightliness be damned.

I know—during my last visit I was smug. Yang and Ling, armed with the knowledge that I ate like a wild hog tied down to a buffet bar serving fresh slop yet still left for home in November 2006 weighing less than I did when I arrived, have stepped up their game a notch.

With little to no sleep and no luggage, my merciless hosts escorted me to Banquet at Compass Point late Sunday morning. I thought it was simply routine when they plunked down a tray heavier than my carry-on bag stuffed with camera contraband upon the seating table. Its contents: roti prata, and a lot of it. It was then, studying their expressions and devilish grins that I realized I was the victim of foul play.

Knowing full well that I would have no other recourse than to scarf it down, chasing it with a cup of teh tarik—and do so with a smile, thank you very much—my hosts had played a card from a truly fiendish hand.

I was overmatched.

And then even dinner at Yang’s mum and dad’s place, a truly lovely gesture for which I am eternally grateful, was the site of unfair treatment of this particular ang moh, feeding into the very nature that may ultimately serve to destroy him.

Yang’s mom prepared the most appetising and visually drool-inducing spread of Asian-style food I’d ever seen in person, yet even this incredibly gracious and hospitable gesture was, in fact, yet another attempt to stuff the ang moh until he could do nothing but submit to the wholesome goodness of homemade Asian cuisine.

At least I was not alone. Yang and Ling were also victims of the very methods in which they wished to delude me. On the ride back home the three of us were so full we took turns tapping each other on the back, burping each other so we could fit into the elevator back home.

So Mrs. Foo, you deserve to share this victory alongside your country. I humbly bow to your expertise, and only hope I may prepare myself for our next encounter. Even your leftover beef rendang over sliced bread, which we ate the next night, decimated any chance of my bounce-back victory on Day Two. I am no match for you! The score for now:

Singapore and Mrs. Foo 1, Matt 0. (Yang and Ling are at approximately 0.5 by my scorecard, so I have the chance to catch up.)

Carry-on luggage, Lowepro CompuDaypack: 15.4’’ Dell laptop, Nikon D40 w/ kit lens, 80gb iPod classic, 8gb USB flash-drive, Samsung A-737 handphone, printed e-ticket, and accompanying itinerary—all mine; also containing: Sigma 10-20mm f/4-5.6 EX DC HSM Lens, Nikon 55-200mm f/4-5.6G VR Zoom Niikor Lens, Nikon SB-600 Flash, Hoya 52mm Circular Polarizing Filter—all Yang’s.

You see, my trip to Singapore just isn’t as fun without bringing contraband into the country. And if you don’t consider someone else’s camera equipment contraband, then you simply lead a far more interesting life than I do and you would then do well to indulge my fancy. After all, I’m a frisky ang moh, defiant to the last breath. I’ve even been known to jaywalk. However, I’m no fool—I leave the peg leg and eye patch at home so I don’t look too suspicious. I’m sure I belched out an occasional pirate-like “Yar!” while traipsing through the airports, the weight of the piracy hanging from my shoulders a small burden worth bearing, but no one appeared fazed. And as I marched through the 3rd terminal at Changi International approaching the customs queue, chest puffed out and unruly smirk glued to my pasty-white face, I felt obliged to chuckle. This is just too easy, I thought to myself, these guys are complete amateurs.

It was but a few moments later, while standing in queue at customs and waiting for the old, officious woman to eye me like the perpetrator I aspired to be before pecking her little stamp upon my passport, that I the Changi intercom screeched: Mr. Matthew McGee, who just arrived from flight SQ25, please blah blah blah, buh-blah blah number two.

Again my poor hearing fails me! Hoping that Changi officials haven’t asked me to go to the restroom, I tapped the nearest person, an elderly Indian fellow with kind eyes ears just as bad as mine. “Sir, did you hear what that message said for Mr. Matthew McGee to do?” I asked, placing my hand upon my chest to drive home the point.

He smiled, revealing fewer teeth than a hen has sense. “You,” he said, poking his finger in my chest, “Mr. Matthew McGee, who just arrived from flight SQ25, please blah blah blah, buh-blah blah number two.” I winced. He shrugged. And within minutes that smug customs agent pecked both our passports with that tiny little stamp of hers. Soon after, we were all strangers again.

But as I stood at the baggage claim for minutes that passed as slow and as long as a hog passes wind—or so I am told—without a glimpse of my luggage making its giddy little rounds along that filthy conveyor belt, an intense feeling of dread overcame me. That old Indian fellow gleefully extending an obnoxious wave goodbye as he galloped through the Nothing To Declare checkpoint, suitcase in hand, only drove home the point: I’d been played like a sucker.

The latter half of the airport paging message now suitably decoded within my miniscule brain, I headed to Lost & Found, not so much to find my luggage, but instead to recover my dismal self-image. There they explained Singapore Air had misdirected my checked luggage to Timbuktu, and, I gotta’ tell you, I ain’t never going to Timbuktu, luggage or no luggage. How did my luggage end up anywhere else but Singapore? No one’s saying anything. Only that it will arrive tomorrow morning. So, $S 120 wealthier and one bag of compensatory amenities later, I moped through the Nothing To Declare checkpoint and collapsed in Yang and Ling’s arms, defeated but still determined to make good on my mission impossible: To make the drop of camera contraband before the authorities were on to me. Clearly I am a trooper.

And I did. They, like the tattered remains of my deflated corpse, are now in Yang’s hands.

To be continued . . .

It’s been nearly two weeks since I left Singapore to return home. And home, that tiny speck of a dot one won’t even notice on maps of my home state, is where I’m at. Outside, it’s quite beautiful — and cold. We received our first significant snowfall in several years only yesterday as the sheets of ice cascaded downward for part of the early morning and well into last night. If one looks outside, it’s literally a bed of icy white sheets laid over everything one once knew and recognized. There’s no activity — just calm, serene, and abundant white. If you dared defy it all, go outside, scrape off the vehicles to slide down the hill and onto the highway to embark on a hazardous trek to someplace else, you’d find little to do under the circumstances.

That’s quite the change from Singapore, where just a peek outside the window of my room revealed boisterous tropical trees and plants, a poolside swimming instructor attempting to teach half-a-dozen soaking wet children more interested in drowning each other than learning how to swim; and the humidity would lay across your face like a wet washrag while the fresh tropical breeze attempted to cool you off. And when I sat in quietude examining it all, day or night, I knew there was just an awful lot going on around me (and that, chances were, roti prata was being eaten without me present).

My last night in Singapore was a memorable one. Yang, Ling, and I were joined by Doreen, Elina, and Mark for a film earlier that afternoon at the Cathay Cineleisure and we followed that up with a gigantic seafood dinner at a restaurant near the shore. We’d since said goodbye to them before driving up the street to take care of a very important matter of extreme urgency: grilled stingray. It was while waiting for the stall owners to prepare this treat that I lamented to Yang and Ling how I so dreaded leaving Singapore, and how I felt I would miss it so much. They appeared genuinely surprised to hear this. I half expected Yang to ask me, “Is that the drunken prawns talking, buddy?”

There was no disputing the possibility existed, but I was quite sincere. After all, I find that I miss the weather, the unpredictable afternoon rains, the even more unpredictable evening showers, and the predictable act of me not bringing an umbrella.

I miss the tropical landscape; the impeccably clean streets and buildings, the trees and vegetation situated among the plentiful cityscape, the daring architecture, the copious parks and gardens, and the sea.

I miss the food, the stalls at the hawker centres, the orphaned smells mingling together as they waft invitingly toward me. I miss the overwhelming selection, the adventure in arriving and not even knowing what to order. I miss the lunchtime rush to the food courts, when everyone has the same idea. I miss Katong laksa. I miss the excitement about food that most Singaporeans appear to share.

I even miss the public transportation, where social grace is often thrown out the window in lieu of more important things, like the illusion of getting to one’s destination sixty seconds faster; the train rides and minding the all important gap at each and every stop, and the temptation to get off at every stop to see what I’m missing. I miss the bus rides leading to destination unknown, the alighting bell and the beeps of the fare cards.

But most of all I miss the people, the multiple cultural backgrounds existing beautifully among each other, the dress and languages. I miss the hawkers, especially the ones so desperate they offer to make you a shirt and pay you S$20 for it; the food hawkers, all business-like, quick and efficient. I miss the bus drivers who, if crossed, go well out of their way to give foreign-speakers within earshot the ultimate crash course on the really useful Chinese swear words.

I miss the anticipation toward the date of November 18^th, Yang and Ling’s wedding day. I miss the preparation, sharing in their experience; speaking with Minister Huang, who always kept it light and fun. I miss watching Isaac, Danyel, and Gwen making their rounds down the aisle during the rehearsal. I miss the early morning anxiety of guessing what proverbial gauntlet Ling’s friends had cooked up for us. I miss the ride in the bridal car which Ronnie drove for us, who was friendly and conversant and related his own wedding day experiences; with Grace and Roger, both of whom had amazingly interesting stories to tell on their travels around the world; with Doreen, who I was pleased to discover had actually seen the same movies I had (!), and who had to translate my excuse for a Best Man’s speech into Mandarin at the last minute. So sorry!

And most especially I miss Yang and Ling, my big brother and sister across the Pacific, who pampered me to no end, whose graciousness I shall never forget and which I hope to repay in some fashion within my lifetime. You two made this trip feel inviting, safe and secure, adventuresome and rewarding. You made me feel like family, and I cherish you both.

I had the time of my life. So, yes, sincerely, I miss it all.

After toying with the idea of remaining on the North-East line until its southern-most conclusion Friday, my trip to Labrador Park on Sunday afternoon found it necessary to do just that. I departed the North-East line at the Harbour Front (NE1) station and intended to proceed to Telok Brangal Rd, but instead I proceeded to somewhere on this side of absolutely lost. No worries—Harbour Front Centre provided me safe, though crowded, refuge, and I took the opportunity to scout around the upper floors of the complex to the departure area for the cruises offered there. A pleasant view of the bay was all mine once I happened outside and onto the deck overlooking the area.

But onward, I said, to Labrador Park, lest Yang laughs at me when I tell him I couldn’t find it. After studying an area map of the outlying area, I found my way to bus stop 14121—close enough to where I needed to be. After a quick ride on bus 57 (and a quick jaunt doubling back to 14161, as I originally missed the stop) I waited at Telok Blangah Rd, opposite Blk 45 . . . and waited, paced a bit, then waited some more, until finally Parks #408 made an appearance. (SBS Parks #408 only appears in half-hour intervals, and only then on weekends and public holidays—glad I decided to go on a Sunday.)

Upon arriving at Labrador Park, I pulled out the camera Yang lent me and basically snapped shots of everything in the area. I have a better visual memory of the former Fort Pasir Panjang through the chambered passage of the viewfinder than through my own eyes, which suits me fine since I find the photographs much more reliable than my memory in most cases. That being said, I absolutely loved every moment spent there. It occurred to me as I navigated the pathways through the bunker area that this is as close as I’ve gotten to some physical semblance of World War II as ever in my life. (Previously, the closest I’d been to WWII was when Yang and I argued over the merits of Spielberg’s Saving Private Ryan versus Malick’s The Thin Red Line!)

The shore-side park area was quite the sight to behold. Sure, to locals I imagine it might not bear mentioning or be reason for excitement, but based on my experience I wasn’t the only one enjoying myself. Hundreds of fellow visitors enjoyed their day of leisure by service of the shade provided by the copious amounts of—to these eyes—exotic trees. Others took their chances in the direct sunlight while casting multiple fishing rods into the sea. Me, I just walked haphazardly all over the place, confident that my light, Irish complexion would reflect all the sun’s rays right back toward the sky. A group of people near the middle of the shore-side park began setting up tables, on top of which they situated pamphlets and food and drink; perhaps a volunteer-driven benefit of some sort?

There’s a lot of history to digest care of the numerous plaques and information postings spread throughout the park. A WWII buff would get a whole lot out of a visit here. After reading through only a couple I found I was—and still am—woefully ignorant of the island’s role during World War II. And of course, the significance of Labrador Park extends back well before then. If I can retain even half of what I learned during my visit to Labrador Park I’ll be content.